I fear I'm not going to make you any happier. I reported on the impression I received from the site on each of the repeated occasions I have tried to find something there. I feel wildly uncomfortable visiting, and really dislike doing so. I would be very happy not to need to do so again.
It could very well be that I am a fully qualified 'old fart', but it takes all sorts to make a world. I don't ask for everyone (or maybe anyone) to agree with me, and can see how some people really enjoy the site; if nothing else, the activity level indicates that there are many who do. I cannot pretend to be one. Equally, I don't ask those members to enjoy everything I do. I do not ask anyone to change their opinions of me because I don't like it. A good range of opinions is needed for diversity in the world.