it's disrespectful to demand others to be something they are not. i know it's just a character but this is reducing him to a fuck toy.
look, i understand that you didn't mean it like that, but it is the implications that i disagreed on your choice of words. of course you can have a preference, but depending on how you phrase it, that can come off as devalidating to the person in question. "unfortunate" is not a good word for qualifying someone's identity because of the negative implications.