does it help if I say you don't have to start taking no actions from day 0? you can take as long as you want to set up, but your complex has to be able to last for 20 days without you repairing anything.
yeah we're dumb, but no it's not that, I tried a bunch of different setups, two farms, two houses two masons, OR one mason, one house, one farm, OR two houses, two masons, one farm. But I keep losing buildings no matter how I set it up and I can't come back once they start falling because I have not enough stone. It's a super appealing game both aesthetically and in concept, but we got hard filtered.