I rely on email notifications since I don't come to Itch regularly, so I do miss comments if one of their emails doesn't reach me. I usually find them eventually, like the comment below this one and your follow-ups.
Beyond that, if I don't reply right away, it's usually because I saw the message at a time when I wasn't able to craft a response and chose to come back to it later. Some questions/comments are quicker to reply to than others.
For your follow-ups - While I appreciate the idea, I won't be coding Wes as possibly trans via something like chest tattoos because he has a penis but does not have a backstory that would allow him to have had bottom surgery before coming to 21CA. He's from a rural, conservative small town, which informed his reserved personality due to him feeling scared that even just showing a little bit of emotion would give away he's gay. There's no realistic way he could leave that situation, get and recover from bottom surgery, and then go to college in the span of a month. While this is a game that plays a little loose with realism, I still want to keep things grounded.
If I was never going to show Wes naked it wouldn't be an issue, but I have and I will, and as noted in my prior response, I don't want to mislead anyone. It seems very queerbait-y to even vaguely hint at him being trans while knowing he will never be presented as such. I hope that reasoning makes sense.
As for Griffin's comments about Riley, his interpretations of what people say aren't necessarily always accurate...