Hey Bob! I'd like to thank you for the wonderful game, been addicted to it for a whole week now!
I'd like for some help tho :( I've finished the game like 5 times already and I still can't get Adam. Been using your tips above but it just doesn't cut it for me. Is coming out too early at the frat house wrong? Because if I don't come out earlier I end up going to the Q&A with him by default :(
I'm glad you're enjoying it.
You can come out to Adam whenever; it doesn't matter. But you need to come out to someone else early, also, and get that person to go to Q&A with you instead.
Also note that Adam is less a full route than a secret ending, so once you think you've satisfied his requirements, you have to play through the rest of the game. If you succeeded (and got sufficiently close to him throughout the game), he'll ask you out when you return from winter break (after the usual "end" of the game).