I read your response on my comment and hon, it's okay YOU are not a disappointment, your mom isn't disappointed wit you. If anything she's probably upset on your behalf in general/upset at his family.
You didn't do wrong, you loved the wrong person, and it can happen. I know how that goes with my first son's dad, down to living with family/him having no drive on it, except in his case it was his grandparent's and he was intentionally sowing discord between us because he was trying to sever any ties I had with anyone/making me extra trapped.
I will say when it comes to him, though remember this... When someone shows you who they are, and what their priorities are, believe them. Especially if this seemed more like a flipped switch after marriage. Some guys put on an extra show and only once they feel you're stuck/trapped(even if they don't realize/do it actively) start to show their worst sides because they feel "Well she made her choice and is stuck with it" kinda things.
Thankfully it's also better when the masks slides earlier, because although it's harder when married, once kids're involved it can be so much harder. x-x
But also seriously, YOU ARE SO NOT A DISAPPOINTMENT! You're caring, forward thinking, and were actually well meaning and went in to the relationship with good faith. You matter, your family cares for you, and even if it can be stressful, it definitely seems like your mom really cares for you
Also, we're all here for you, and I'm here, on twitter as Seraiden3, etc and if you ever want to talk, get stuff on your chest etc? Legit feel free to message me, it's no burden, and I sleep somewhat odd times anyway so if I'm up I'll respond. :D
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Thank you, Seraiden.
I've expected some surprises when I got married. But what truly shocked me was his working ethics.
I mean, I know that he's an extrovert. He's outgoing, fun, and really talkative with his friends. Heck, when I first knew him, it was at an internet cafe. He was really friendly and greeted everyone there every time he drops by. But when he work at the store, it looked like he became another person; grumpy and rude. At first, he can't even wake up and go to work at 7. I had to ignore him for 3 days until he fix that habit.
I kept nagging him about it because one of my beliefs is 'If your husband can work/is hardworking then no problem is too big to solve'. Not to mention the mom in law, who keeps complaining to me about it. But well... after the storm, I've come to accept that some things are just not meant to be.
After everything is said and done, I've taken note of your twitter account~
Don't mind me because I'm often a silent stalker on twitter x'D It already means a lot for me to have you over here, reading my updates, and having my back :')
Thanks and with lots of hugs,
SweetChiel
Of course, feel free to follow/stalk it etc. I mean what's a lil stalking each other's pages between friends? xD
Sorry stuff' gone so rough but I hope it only goes on an upswing from here, because eugh, I know the feel so hard of thinking someone you love is how they are, but then it turns out to be just their public persona/mask.
And I still agree on the both sides need to compromise. If only one side bends, there's only so far to bed before you break, y'know? :<