I do not mean this as an insult, but have you played any other NSFW games developed by a small team which does not use AI assistance. The gaps are much larger and/or the content in each patch is by far less. Each Starmaker release is much larger in comparison to other releases, and the clear fault with 1.9 is that it is probably too overly ambitious.
As for mods jumping over your queries, it is most likely the questions you are asking or the way they are worded. If you are asking why is the game talking so long this has already been answered "feature creep" it would be a waste of time for Kal to even answer that question again. If you asked him stuff like "What was your inspiration for Anna's personality?" You would most likely find him more willing to engage.
Couple more weeks now, and should nothing go wrong in testing 1.9 will probably be ready to ship, going by docs language used.