Hii thanks for your comment! I totally get where you're coming from.
The Wolf Wears Red was originally written with a female protagonist in mind. I added options since I wanted more people to enjoy the game, but it still contains special dialogue for each gender (since the killer in the story prefers to target men).
About the otome label: The tag was required when submitting to otome jam, but I get why that would seem like it's cluttering the search -- it has now been removed.
I played a lot of otome games growing up, so I completely understand your frustration!