Hello! Thank you for playing and enjoying the game.
"but since I don't find it hot, it's literally just cheating."
I totally understand where you're coming from, however your opinion does not make it fact. This harem is a harem, a relationship structured with one man, and eight women.
But I do intend to make every sex scene completely optional, so it shouldn't be a problem for you in the future. While it isn't cheating, you will have more control in what happens so you can focus on what you enjoy!