Ahhh, sometimes, people are really sensitive about the 'self'- I'm no exception either, so I usually try to tip-toe it as much as possible because I know how it feels and I also hate myself sometimes about that. It just brings out a nasty monster, but what really matters is to recognise it and do against it. Being extra careful shouldn't hurt others feelings probably.
This team did a great job story-wise too, so they deserve praise as well. :> I just sometimes forget mentioning it. I'm happy that it sounded supportive though because that was the whole purpose. <3