For 3, when I play IFs, I try to immerse myself in character, and tried to pick options an logic centric mindset would pick, while still trying to not hurt a person they were fond of too much.
As for thoughts for aspects I'd like to see SAL struggle with, something that comes to mind instantly is the expression of romance in a relationship, the moderation of such expressions, and what it would like for a being that struggles with the concept of feeling love/affection.