I still need to write a blog on this at some point, though a lot of my thoughts align with Jay Dragon's in her blog The Palette Grid (a safety tool).
The short and sweet - my philosophy on safety, and the philosophy of the faggot games movement, is a model of reproach and desire, of hot and cold. It asks - what do you want to see? What are you nervous to see? What do you not want to see at all?
I hope that answers succintly.