Let me preface with this: I'm unsure whether you are deciding your preferences are the vast majority's preferences or if there is an announced consensus in a community that I'm missing. Just to show what I know, I can show you the poll that I ran for my community to determine what the NTRish toggle should contain.
The vast majority seems to be okay with groping. However, I do understand your frustration, people have been making comments agreeing with yours in DMs and in the discord community months before v0.6 ever came out. But the problem I'm faced with is that there is no single solution that will make every one happy. I just went with the one that made the most people happy.
One question I have for you: If the worst of the grope scenes are over would you consider this game playable? Or would you be only interested if another toggle was added for grope scenes?
Alternatively, I would be more willing to add a particular grope scene to the toggle list if you'd rather have that one hidden. (The pool scene usually gets the most flak.)
Also, if you'd like to discuss anything further feel free to DM me.
BTW to anyone reading this: you're free to vote on this poll, it is still up and I check it to see the community's opinion on the toggle. (It's brought up sometimes during discussion and new votes come in.)