for some odd reason whenever I play the game the sex is painfully slow and it takes literal hours to do anything

I dont know what causes this as the speed up token or the slow down token dont change anything 

the sex is just stuck at the pace 1 and it doesnt get any faster later on and I dont know if Im doing something wrong

my friend also has this issue so I posted this as a topic

You ever fix it?

odd, you have slow off? little x on it? also are you hitting the pick area in the minigame? Also also if you middle click it shows a lock icon and pauses the progress.

I had this exact issue! You need to go into options and disable 120hz as it changes the refresh rate and a lot of the animations are based off of it. if you were to disable it on a computer/monitor with a 120hz refresh rate, it would go extremely fast.  Hope this helps! Let me know if you have any other issues.