I appreciate your thought-out critique on this, as it's a concern for me.
The afternoon interactions are... we'll call them a work-in-progress. Some were initially added before deeper lore was finalized, and have been altered a few times since then to incorporate more consent (which is something I'm trying hard to include).
Some of your concerns revolving the lore and the racial curse will likely be alleviated once more of Lani's information is made known (things like Titles and Gifts that alter the effects of the racial curse specifically for her and those around her). On that same thought, I'm sure that some likely will not, which is something I need to think about. There are no scenes in the game that I'm fundamentally opposed to changing, so if you continue to play as the content is expanded and your concerns aren't corrected, please do contact me. My plans for an event log are requiring that I revisit every event in the game, so I'll take that opportunity to consider alterations.