Yeah I figured out what happened, I apparently had to do the flashback events in a certain order, I'd visit the father's grave first instead of last, and that caused it to loop, so going back to do the bar, the walk, then the graveyard fixed it
The name is supposed to show up like that. Reloading the game shouldn’t change that. If it did, that would be the bug. As I explained, the name you give her is an alias. Also there should be no loop, it’s just how the game works, you spend a few days living the character’s old life before moving on.