Hello sweetie,
As another person who has been SA countless times before and actually abused for years - and the person roams free on the streets - I can say that I get your point. I truly do. But the thing is, I'm yet to find a sex focused game that has not even a moment of non consensual stuff.
Just like in the real world, these things happens in games that focuses on sex.
I have to say that this game is actually pretty tame in comparison with others that I've seen before, and all the non consensual part being avoidable is a huge step. It can be avoided, and sometimes you even forget that this option exists while playing and beating up the crap out of enemies. Really. Not to mention that said enemies can also be avoided by scaping method. Literally running away. Personally I like beating them up - what includes leveling up faster, and sometimes using cheat cookies - since that gives me satisfaction. Truly.
Also, I enjoy well-constructed worlds and plots, what this game happens to have. And I'm not saying it to hurt you or anything, but I don't think there's a porn game without even the slightest mention on noncon stuff. The closest you may get it'll be the green route on this game, and perhaps the vanilla route on Degrees of Lewdity (that also has amazing world construction and characters, even if the general plor gets tricky to find).
And about people not being able to discern things... unfortunately it's not like they'll change. The heavy amount of sex games that not only enable this behavior, but also encourages is disturbing. I honestly have no hope on people changing on this aspects, but that's exactly why I like beating enemies like them in games.
Also, I hope you're getting mental help and support, dearest. You're stronger than you think. Wish I could hug ya. If you ever need to talk, lemme know. Survivors should stick together ♡