You're not quite right on those orders. You just have to increase arousal for ass and pussy by licking/rubbing/fingering. A display shows up in the header when you start to do those things for either one. And then at any point you do also have to bring your cock to her to access the penetration options once arousal is met.
Licking is indeed required for anal, just my thought process of not wanting to try and fuck her ass dry, but I understand that analingus isn't appealing to everyone.
I can also see how bringing your cock to either hole feels like an unnecessary step.
Not being able to see the progress bar is an issue with not using Google Chrome, since that's what I tested the game in. I meant to make sure it shows properly in other browsers with the small bug-fix I put out a couple days ago, but forgot to. Sorry!
And per your other comment about Awake Mode, it does require unlocking Pregnancy Mode first. I'll make that more clear.
I'll consider your feedback and make some changes, and will for sure fix that bug with the progress bar. Thanks you.