So the chances of my 30 yr old getting married are thin? He also went off to war then I had 3 kinfolk from somewhere else join & the oldest is 28.
Different people get married for different reasons at different ages. Each kin has different stats behind them, and that affects their chances of marriage. Some are actually "ugly," but you don't see it because it's a text game. Some people marry in old age, because they hold the place. Stature plays a huge role in who gets married.