ya! i think like
there's this idea sometimes that everything needs to be Open and Totally Clarified. thinking abt an old friend(?) who was like "(fantasizing fondly) imagine if everyone could share everything about themselves and decide how to feel about each other" as if sometimes sharing stuff Only Hurts People and as if people don't sometimes have *conflicting desires*???
openness is no "moral good"
real world is messy and no clear "right"