I think it's less of a gender thing and more of a kink thing? Being into Abusive relationships is not unique or even associated with the female gender(Although putting up with physical abuse often is, but thats not exactly a positive association, and emotionally abusive relationships tend to go the other way and occasionally even develop into physical abuse), all in all it's definitely not for everyone but I personally might go beyond just reading the rules and minmaxing builds if I ever found a group I actually trusted to respect boundaries with(On retrospect, a really sad sentence)
But honestly this particular branch of thought experiments/Psychology/etc is rather interesting.