Firstly, I've done no rule-breaking or committed any ban-worthy offense.
Secondly, your random insertion of comparison between two terms against the fabric of subjective social morality does nothing but highlight the probability that you don't have a single real response to anything I've said, much less any logical reasoning behind why you personally find it problematic.
Lastly, your entire response has shown that you are the one doing the "pearl-clutching," here. You are clearly very bothered by the fact that people don't appreciate being called slurs, which leads me to believe you carry fragility because you are most comfortable when you are allowed impunity over your words, and feel intolerable discomfort when you may have to face the harm they might cause.
I will leave you with this question: if your comfort depends on ignoring the comfort of other people, or lessening it, then is that comfort worth it to you in the end?