The latter two are relatively new, so it's entirely possible the flags weren't set properly. However, there was one instance for me in which a kink being disabled seemed to mean I see it once then decide whether I want to see it again. Which is a really, really weird way to handle disabling kinks, but that seemed to be how it works. Just to confirm you didn't actually enable it rather than disabling it though (because the menu isn't entirely clear which is which), disabled has the circle on the right side of a red bar, and enabled has the circle on the left side of a green bar.