First : Did you read what I said? I said the words they used are not the problem it is the way they used them. They are being disrespectful. It does not matter what kind of jam they are hosting they are still being a jerk.

Second: I didn't choose to get upset. I don't have complete control over my emotions. I am sorry for being human. When I see someone being mean it does make me upset. I tried to explain myself and be as nice as possible while also letting them know they were being mean. They chose to be dismissive. When I tried to follow up an continue the conversation they chose to ignore me. They chose to mock me in a reply to you rather than have an earnest conversation with me or just remove the one word. They are choosing to keep the word despite the fact I told them, in detail, why it is disrespectful. You can side with them if you want. I don't know why you would want to.

Since they refuse to answer me I want to know why defending their specific use of the word is important to you?