I think as a dev, and I know others feel the same, it can just feel like we're being ragged on from all angles sometimes. The initial comment felt a bit snippy to me, though of course that could just be my interpretation of it and my aforementioned defensiveness!
The OP is familiar with my work, and I suppose in my initial response I assumed that meant they understood that my game pages tend to be pretty representative of the content. If there is a gender chooseable MC, that is mentioned on the page and the game is tagged with a wider range of genres. BUT you know what they say about assumptions, lol. My mistake, truly :)
I understand that there is some people who use the otome tag erroneously, but I also think there are a (not insignificant) group of us that just generally view the tag differently.
My games are made for a primarly female/woman/feminine audience, with male LIs, and I do not think a pronoun option changes that they are spiritually and functionally otome, and I think it's the same for some other devs who use the otome tag with pronoun/gender options. Until amare is a popularised term, it's also just untenable for many of us to avoid the otome tag when, as I said, the games are functionally otome.
Just my two pennies, not trying to debate that this game being tagged otome + female protagonist is the right move :)