Yes, there are two ways to do this. The normal way is to just use the drop down in the vamX AI Chat Web UI to select 1st Person / 2nd Person / 3rd Person (Change "Speak As Female / 1st Person" to select the male or other person). This is the recommended method.
Alternatively, if you AREN'T using vamX, and are a little familiar with Virt-a-Mate, you can use the standalone AI Chat plugin and just attach the plugin to the person atom to target that person.