You're right, I've seen a huge increase in people demanding and trying to change the definition of Otome! They have so many, not just a dozen but at least a hundred or more VNs to play - that aren't Otome but have both genders - and they're free for the most part. I personally feel the people who ask and get angry about these things, only do it to small time, doujin or Western indie Devs. Because they're not as big as Otomate or Rejet and risk getting cancelled.
They're being the exact bullies, they envision Otome makers to be. Not that I've seen anyone do this in this game's comment section but I've seen at least ten people ask about pronouns and gender, when people remind them it's an Otome and not a visual novel or BL - they ignore that it's a girl's game.
Thank you for validating my concerns and frustrationsm 😭😭🖤