Umm, you do know you can turn ntr off, correct? It depends on your choices in-game.
PS: Do read the warnings and the tags before you play/buy a game. Been a while since I played this game, but it isn't too extreme from what I recall. Regardless, it's a game/fantasy. Don't confuse it with real life. Most people don't like femdom and very few of the ones who fantasize about it would want to live it out to the extreme. In most cases, it's limited to inside bedroom (and without any 3rd person). You, my friend, were unlucky to have been with an unpleasant/cruel partner. Hope life's been better for you.