it says it on the left side of the journal under "general" but not on the right, so I would assume I haven't started it. I'm not sure how to even start it since I can't interact with her other than wrestling.
There's a small chance your save is bricked. If you've loaded and overwritten a save that was created prior to 0.14 that could have caused the problems you are experiencing with your current configuration.
I would suggest starting a new save . All versions after v0.14 are, and will be backwards compatible as well which should prevent a similar issue from occurring in the future.