Looks like I just had to have just a little more patience; 2 events with Amber followed up close after each other. One she took me to a fancy restaurant, and then we went for a walk in a forest. Relationship is now at max 10, attachment at 28 due to lots of repeating talk about losing keys in the park, breakfast in the kitchen and exercising in the gym :) A talk between Amber and Mia was probably what was needed. But thanks for reacting.