Ntr isnt gender specific. In the simplest terms i can explain is specifically netorare is the pov haveing MC partner stolen away,while netori is the pov of mc doing the stealing. Both fall under the umbrella term NTR. And i believe cheating is technically considered its own thing as "technically" the partner isnt necessarily "stolen" just unfaithful as a 1 off(ish) event. Although lets be honest..it rides a hardline no? Lol.
Anyway no hate . This is just intended to be informative.