"To me, gay.. is when two men have sex with one another (or two women)" ........No theirs none of that here
"(Rereading my post, it may come across as me being pissy.. and that's NOT my intention, I'm genuinely curious, and asking for clarification.)"........Nooooooooooooooo I literally just read it as normal. No need to be conscious of the tone you thought it was in; it's cool. :)