Alright...
So, something that it's fun and neither gay/futa, nor visual novel, and im guessing that not rpgm as well...
I do know many games that I personally would find fun since they have a lot of "interactiveness" (or whatever the word is) but that do as well have as well a strong component of visual novel, (some examples: my distophian robot girlfriend, inkling heroes VS tentacles, love is undead, all the games made by pinktea/pinkypads, basically all the games of cohibitance) but if you want to comepletely eliminate the vn element, I don't have much...
I guess you could try with the games of cream bee (found him on newgrounds) or the two games made by countmoxi (hilda's reward and neko touch) but those are pretty short.
The only things I know that are perfect with all this would be paid games, like "our apartment" or the ones made by hotpink.
(btw, english is not my first language, so, sorry if I misspelled things or type weird)