OP also admitted to being, like us, someone who struggles with mental health issues. Your commentary also felt harsh to me and honestly triggering, probably because you were triggered yourself. Knowing you are young makes sense now, so I will say this: Don't swing your sword when you don't know how vulnerable your target is, nor if you can handle what may come back towards you. If you feel triggered, take a moment to pause and think before you type. Retype things if they feel like something you wouldn't want someone to say to you when you don't have the information you are trying to convey.I won't assume to know your therapy history, but these are DBT skills. The person who responded angrily to you gave you the exact same energy you gave to the comment you responded to in the first place. Some people don't like to watch other people get dog piled so relentlessly. From your point of view, you were being righteous. From other people's point of view, you came off as sanctimonious. This is from other people in your community, people with mental health issues. If you don't want to get hurt in the comment section, don't take a swing.I highly suggest setting boundaries for yourself and reading up on DBT techniques and emotional regulation for your own benefit if seeing a therapist for it is something you can't currently do. I'm saying this with warmth, from experience, and from dealing with mental health and the internet in particular. I'm not trying to be harsh towards you, I'm just trying to help you understand what happened here. It seems OP was trying to express themselves, you felt triggered, and then the commentary triggered the third commentator. So lets all just give each other room to experience emotions and realize that everyone has a story and a life outside of this comment section which leads us to feel the way that we do. That's why I'm commenting at least lol. I hope all of us has a good week and that we can focus on what is important to us.
Thank you for the comment and caring about me, sometimes emotional regulation is harder for me and I struggle to convey stuff in a way that doesn’t sound rude mostly because of my autism and how I come off to people (just being honest and blunt and that can equal being mean) but I meant no ill will in my original commentary really and I don’t like the implication that I may have meant something else when I’m usually so blunt there’s nothing more to look into, I wasn’t trying to imply that nobody actually suffered from mental issues but I don’t think that’s a valid reason to attack someone for their opinion and hope their life gets worse and call them names for something pretty service level and non problematic. I’m also of the opinion we shouldn’t censor art and I agree with them, but I did not call anyone names in my original comment and I do not think it’s justified to try and say “well you shouldn’t have said your opinion or commented at all if you didn’t want to get attacked” which I’m not sure is what your saying but that’s what I got from it. I appreciate the concern but honestly it’s none of your business what my history is and trying to tell me the original commenter was justified in being so rude to me to make harsh comments about my character is kinda eh. Your probably trying to help but I did not ask for your unsolicited advice when I already acknowledged I could be wrong, I was only ever triggered by the fact I got called names and dragged for disagreeing with someone, I do agree more when the OP re explained their point but I can still disagree with them for how insensitive it came off. This should not just apply to me, this should apply to the other people as well. I was never really triggered to be completely honest, I think I was probably just too blunt for people to handle and I guess they thought I was being rude and they probably don’t like my honesty. Same rule applies to op, if they didn’t want to be criticized they also shouldn’t have swung their sword, not sure why I’m being targeted in specific.
Oh, I agree with you that it should apply to everyone. And I don’t think you should have been called names, nor do I think that Apocalypsebeat should have been so harsh with the point they were trying to make (it makes me think they are probably young also)
But while you didn’t call OP names, you came at OP with some pretty serious implications that I can see being triggering to people who were raised or were immersed in certain environments. The way you initially raised your concern wasn’t kind and the way you spoke with them in your replies wasn’t conducive to actually getting your point across. I feel like if we are going to take it in good faith that the people in this comment section that have strong feelings about the game have mental health issues, we should be gentle with each other.
I understand where you are coming from with your autism. I don’t have autism but I do have CPTSD and tend to be blunt because of my upbringing. But when you type on the internet you are able to temper some of the rough edges by rereading your words and editing them.I don’t think being blunt is bad, nor do I think it’s bad to speak your mind (I’m here doing it, and I’m here giving my unsolicited advice as well) but I think in situations where people are not your enemy, or can be convinced to be your friend (in this case I mean “friend” as in “someone who understands and perhaps agrees with your opinion”) then maybe it’s not in your best interest to come in swinging at the very start, even if someone’s opinion makes you mad.
Saying things like “Shame on you” (this phrase specifically) is especially triggering. If we’re in mental health spaces, talking to other people who have mental health problems, we should lead with kindness.
I’m not singling you out because I think you did anything especially bad, or because I dislike you. It’s because you seemed the most open to discussion and dialogue, as well as the fact that I used to communicate in a similar way to how you are.
I don’t think your intentions are wrong, I just think your delivery is hurting your message. And that’s why I think so many people’s feathers got ruffled.
I know my advice is unsolicited but this is a public forum and I think you know about feeling a necessity to voice your feelings to somebody regardless of their opinion on the matter lol
hope you and anyone else here have had some water today. I’m drinking some right now.
rereading it now I can see what you mean but the insulting comments and such, personally I was very put off by the very original post because they said they’d rather have way more negative games surrounding us rather then games that would help us as an already stigmatized group of individuals and that’s probably where the initial reaction came from. The “shame on you” was more so not directed at their mental illness but because their opinion was just not the best and I understand the stance of “no pro censorship” but I didn’t think or will never think putting media out there that will further push us into a regressive corner is going to help us as it is and that mindset is very harmful and I’m not sure how else it’s supposed to be interpreted. I’m just a very big advocate for accurate representation in media that doesn’t further hurt groups of people and maybe that’s why I’m so passionate about it. I don’t think I did it on purpose or was trying to come off that way, but I feel like even if you do have a mental illness you can still have a bad take on how it should be handled and I don’t think it should excuse you from criticism, cuz what OP said can very very easily be taken the wrong way. I think most of the issue stems kinda more so that you can’t read tone as well through text as you can irl and it can make someone seem more aggressive then their trying to be. I’m very open to discussion as you’ve seen and I’m sorry to OP or anyone I offended because genuinely it was not my intent, even if I very much so disagree with them I don’t wish harm on them/don’t think they’re not entitled to their feelings and I think I did come off pretty mean in my first or second comment rereading it, I’m not sure if I was upset because usually the only time I am is like when Apocalypsebeast insulted me which I think is a more justified reason. Thank you for trying to talk it out with me and explain it, I think a lot of people here jump to conclusions about actual intent and it can lead to infighting, which was not purposeful on my part (not sure about everyone else). Hopefully you understand what I’m trying to say, I appreciate it because with autism you aren’t really sure what your doing wrong until someone explains it to you thoroughly.