Sorry for the delay, I'm still dealing with some health problems while trying not to fall behind schedule.
It's not the first time someone has mentioned something about Discord here, but the invite link is the same as always and works (the same as the one in-game), if that's what you mean.
When a girl becomes your girlfriend and it's time to choose the bonus, it's individual, you choose the bonus for each girl, as each girl has different bonuses.