yeah, exactly. Sometimes it's not even that the writer wanted them to be canon, sometimes it's just plain queerbaiting. Getting the money in your pockets from people who ship it and fully believe you will deliver and make the ship canon only for the show to end and oopsies daisies looks like I actually didn't do that, but I still get to keep your money and also not anger homophobes so I get THEIR money TOO! It's a win-win! For me, that is.
Queer-coding is like... yeah I'm upset they're not canon, but the writer clearly wanted them to be so I can live with it. Queerbaiting just makes you feel stupid and annoyed, like you just can't believe you were tricked into thinking that this writer who only wanted your money would actually make the ship canon...
Accidental queer-coding is yeah I'm upset they're not canon, but damn how did the writer write scenes like this and expect it NOT to sound gay? Like... jeez dude, that is the single gayest line I've heard in my entire life what do you mean you didn't realize until fans started shipping it?? My man, this is gayer than everyone on tumblr combined, what do you mean it was accidental???