So I know everyone's super pissed at Torulf and I get why but I don't necessarily agree. Torulf is very upfront with his attitude, however, he has a predatory mindset in that the two people he's involved with are not as experienced with him and he either doesn't get that or is to irresponsible to care.
There is a difference in attitude even if the results are the same, in one he's oblivious, in the other he's more malicious.
He really should have taken a step back when he found out that he was Arvo and Lake's firsts (I don't remember if he's Lake's first I'm just making a presumption.) Problem is he's too keen to recapture the sense of adventure he had before his quarter life crisis to understand that as the older party he needs to be responsible.
tldr; he's very human with human flaws but if you want a good and responsible older partner go with Devon.