OMG... that message is too long. I'm sorry but it was really nice to get that off my chest. This is an issue that I don't really get the chance to talk about because of the negative reactions that I usually get.
I just want to add THANK YOU DEV!
This is a touchy subject and I really appreciate you taking the time to address it. We all want to have naughty fun on here but some peoples naughty fun is other peoples worst memories.
Just remember, the BEGINNING of the scene is what sets the tone. Like for playful BDSM scenes just start it with the MC thinking "Woah dude she's hot! I hope she goes for my junk" or whatever. That way the player knows that the MC wants it. Because if the MC freaks out, we freak out.