Loaf's ctp wiki page literally says they are they/them. But just because you didn't know, does not mean you can be a douchbag. Loaf kindly said "Stop misgendering me please", and instead of accepting that you messed up, you try to shift the blame onto someone who is currently gone for a week. And then you get angry when Loaf continues to be polite, not insulting you or anything. I don't want to get into a fight with you. But please just stop and respect Loaf's pronouns and identity.