ok upon further inspection, I am not over reacting about my mother. She's the root of my insecurities, I didn't actually create them in my own head.
"Why do I even bother with you?"
"She's so smart, she's just too lazy to try."
"Name one time I ever said anything mean."
"I'm sad, I feel like you don't love me, all I've ever done was love you."
"I didn't mean any of that, it's just jokes."
"How could you do that? You embarrassed us!"
"You're so dramatic, it's not a big deal."
"Why are you like this?"
"I'm your mother, I have a right to..."
"You know *other person accomplished this and that* at your age."
"If you tried harder, you could've done so much better."
"My parents did *this and that* so you can't complain."
"I don't have time for you right now!"
"Why didn't you get an A?"
"You need to try harder!"
"Because I said so!"
"what are people going to say?"
"what does that say about me as a parent?"
"I'm leaving and NEVER coming back!" (yes she said it, I'm not exaggerating)
"You never appreciate me."
"HOW COULD YOU DO THIS!?"
It's never said but it's heavily implied that it's her way or the highway.