Dyne post a guide somewhere, I don't remember exactly but exist. On my first run with Spencer (like 4 months ago) he end up asking if you want to be on top or bottom. With the guide, Dyne explain he use a "confident score" which determined who make the first move over the other (related to more than sex). Try to find the guide and retry the run, you will lose some love point but you will bottom so..... Win win?