(Yes but not all femboys are gay and I know it's just you've brought it up in posts before and I sort of always get scared talking to you about anything LGBTQ related. I have no problem with being wrong or being educated, but I also feel like sometimes when you make these posts or say things it's a matter of your personal preference and not an everyone gets offended by this type of thing. And yes of course I respect personal preferences and of course I don't want to offend, but seeing long, angry posts directed at specific people makes me very, very scared to talk to you because I am incredibly anxious and I feel like if I talk to you about anything remotely queer you're going to lose your shit on me.
this is rlly long but i swear im not mad
(are you still stuck on the time i talked about how people shouldn't introduce their friends (who happen to be trans) as their trans friend, because that wasn't directed at anyone AND it is a problem, not personal preference or any of that bologna, it is literally just reducing someone down to their gender identity and its weird, period. Its not just me who feels that way, like if i were to introduce my friend to my parents and i go "thats lee, they're trans." *dramatic pause* "but also they're good at drawing or whatever but thats less important then their transness" or if its about the time you called ur ocs like small bean gay bois or whatever, that was odd. I said ayo thats weird then you were lile oh lol woops nvm and then that was that, like as far as i remember i haven't targeted people, or at least haven't said names. If someone does something that makes me uncomfortable sometimes my brain goes, oh hey I've been meaning to talk about that lol i should do that now be4 i forget, not necessarily meaning to attack or shame people, I've just been reminded of stuff, like whatever. B scared, but my intentions aren't to like attack anyone it just bugs me when i do say, yo this makes me uncomfortable and then someone says well im part of *this sexuality* and im like hey that's not relevant you still made this one community uncomfortable. You said not everyone gets offended or made uncomfortable but if enough people do, even of they aren't there to see it then shouldn't i say something? Like if you call a big group of trans people the t slur and ur cis and all but one get upset, its still transphobic EVEN IF that one trans kid isn't upset by it everyone else was so it should still be discussed and it should still be considered as weird or offensive.)
(No I'm not talking about any of that. I agree with you on the gender identity thing I'm on the same page there and yes you are correct it IS a problem. The smol beans thing, yeah I really don't mind it made you uncomfortable I stopped that's it. There have been some times where you've said things that, while not directed specifically at anyone, are still very clearly in response to other things and that just like-makes me feel a bit uncomfortable when it's a public post. Yes I think we should educate people but when not everyone's done something wrong and the person who did something wrong did so out of ignorance rather than prejudice, it feels a bit wrong to make a post calling them out in front of everyone rather than just talking to them and explaining why the thing they did was wrong. We should be correcting people, not shaming them. Actually the thing that I was thinking of was your post about people fetishizing gay men and MLM relationships. I ain't doing that. There's a pretty big difference between me thinking 'Hey these people are awesome I love their fashion' and me being like 'Hey these people are very attractive to me' and just boiling people down to their looks. And yeah, I do love gay men and mlm relationships. I love seeing them in media, and I love having that representation for them and for my community, and I generally think ANY lgbtq+ relationship is adorable and awesome and I will squee aggressively, real or fictional. But just because I think a part of my community is amazing doesn't mean I'm fetishizing it.)
(ohh, the mlm thing wasn't about you, nah nah. I saw like 3 fujoushis on my foru that day and i was all like, what the fuck. Especially cos fujos act like they're oppressed when calld out on it, going like "im a fujoushi and im proud" and "fujoushis have feelings to" and then go and fetishize and harass mlm dudes yk?)