i was trying to play with my friend but for some reason we both get 200+ ping at all times, no matter who hosts or whatever junk process is in the background, it never goes down from 200

is there any way to reduce this? he has a fiber optic internet and i have a pretty decent down/up speed, we live around 400~500ish kilometers from each other but we still get very low amounts of ping in all other games we've played (we both have it on steam btw)