Pronouns- Apologies aren't necessary, I'm clearly just playing the game in a less intended way and the game IS named dick after all- I'd just rather chase it (as a woman, not trap or man) though either are fine too and I did use the potions to experiment a bit in that regard but it just doesn't feel quite right to how I like to play) than have it. I don't have specific references, but it happens really commonly. Sometimes in the same paragraph it could be talking about your nonexistent dick and then talk about your lady parts in the next sentence.
Magic- Yeah I eventually found the magic by continuing viv's quest line. It feels a bit late into the game imo, but I wonder how fast you can get to it if you had made a B-line straight towards it. After messing around with it, it definitely needs some good rebalancing. In general things should lean in the direction of making the player feel competent if not powerful. Magic costs seem pretty high but they all seemed to have an option for regaining magic in combat so that's fine I suppose. I do think it could make sense if you could use the starting background options to start out with your character meeting up with Viv while out in the wilds, and going through learning magic together more, before or after she makes the pact, and start out with a magic class. Just throwing that out there.
Manly men- Ah, I did find Gedim eventually after posting. For now he's pretty limited. I didn't notice options for the blacksmith or trainer, but even then they aren't quite what I'm looking for either. But yeah I get that it's not the main focus. Definitely seems more in the line of... well, lady boys and ladies. I only brought it up since it does seem like there is an intention to have some more diverse options for diverse interests.
Appreciate the reply, good luck with future updates.