Actually, on the topic of the maid quest, it doesn't appear that the quest only really works if Lewis stays male one way or another during challenge 1, then losses challenge 2 to Tessa, as I didn't find any maid transformation options where I expected to during mingle phases 2 & 3 let alone Tessa wanting to force Odenval into a maid as well. Also, the scene at the mirror pool where Tessa enacts the "shortstack maid poodalist" thing if Lewis became female after challenge 1, lost challenge 2 to tessa, and Tessa wins challenge 5 acts as if Lewis had started the whole thing as a male.