Think there's a dominance/submission bug - the only way I can get dominance seems to be by flirting dominantly.
Regardless of whether I get my date off, or they get me off, on any date (coffee shop, movie theater, dinner), my date is always the one to dominance, unless I stop in the middle, in which case no one gets dominance.
Similarly, my partner can get dominance from dominant sex acts, but I can't seem to - spend the entire time spanking them, pulling their hair, etc, and nothing changes, but if they do it to me, they do get dominance.
This happens even when I have a assertiveness stat of 5, and my date has prefers bottom, complaint, and submissive.