Are you sure you just didn't read the content warnings in the game itself? Because I may have used Non-con in the game page, but the game itself has proper warnings, unless you believe rape is not Sexual violence. You should know exactly what you're getting into, yet you still chose to play the game.
Plus, you yourself said that non-con is a term used for fiction and fanfic. My Visual novel is quite literally that. Fiction. No where did I bring up anything about the game portraying BDSM until you did, but it's not about BDSM at all.
However, most of my audience are members of the BDSM community and enjoys taboo kinks like CNC, so it's not surprising that they enjoy the themes in my game, but that is it. CNC and rape is not the same thing, that is pointing out the obvious. But CNC is the sexualisation of a non- consensual sex act which is practiced through a safe medium with proper boundaries and consent.
I understand your concerns regarding systematic issues, because I agree that alot of men simply aren't doms and uses the idea of BDSM to commit violence against women and queer people. However, people are also allowed to be into such themes that fit into this, as long as it's practiced safely. You say you don't care what I do in private and my identity, yet you were the first to attack my queerness and preferences.
I know you have good intentions and your heart is in the right place. I see it, but you are going about it in a very terrible way.
Also a queer, trans poc who practices BDSM, and does sex work (Not sure why this information is relevant, but I'll add mine since you added yours)