Indeed, I agree. I want to believe it's not malicious ignorance, but at the same time it's an under-discussed issue that really bothers me. I am quite upset at the whole thing, and I had to revise this post several times because ultimately I am not looking for a fight. I don't think it's "mean" to say all of this, however I do believe whoever says any of this out loud is in immediate danger. I feel very unsafe speaking about all of this.
Thank you for listening to me and understanding. It means a lot to me.