That's what I did, I think. I'm still new to coding, so I think I understand what you're saying. I have both set for the love interest and the player
well i think is too late for my advice, but here we go, could make the dialogue gender neutral so is less work on redoing the entire dialogue but depending on how much you already wrote in texts it could be easier (and less painful to code)to make the global variation for the texts instead rewriting the entire game.