Make the game YOU want to make. People will like it or not. Ignore the ones being hateful instead of constructive (easier said than done ik). At the end of the day, adult games will always have haters purely because of how many fetishes exist. You won't please everyone so focus on making the best game you can.
Personally I play AVN for the stories anyway so I can mostly ignore any unoptional fetishes that aren't for me.